The Power of Loving Yourself

03 June 2020

I used to be very stuck in the negative. I saw myself as a victim to the depression that would often crash into my marriage. At first I took that depression personally, that it was something I had done or would do that would keep it coming back. 

Then I began to realize that it wasn’t my fault and it wasn’t my husband’s fault it just was. We would do our best to avoid the triggers and to have healthy practices, but it just kept coming back.

And I found myself getting angry at God and life in general because I was only seeing what I didn’t have and what I felt couldn’t be. And I trapped myself. Now all of us here know that mental illness in the mix can be painful and can mean changing plans, and supporting in ways we never thought we’d need to…

But what I’ve learned this past year is that I am only as limited as I choose to limit myself. Are there still going to be painful days? Yes, most definitely yes. Do normal things like car troubles feel like they bring a world of woes? Yes!

But I have learned that I have a choice. I have learned that as I care about what I think and what I feel I see myself as more than solely a supporter That as I start loving myself, for myself, not just as the person who supports myself, my life doesn’t feel so limiting.

I used to be afraid to dream because where I was felt so very far away from any goal I would set. If my husband and I could go days without speaking to each other, if I was always going to family get-togethers alone, if just assisting with homework felt like a monumental task, then how in the world was I going to be able to run my own business and help other individuals facing the things I was, let alone dreaming glorious dreams about travel and writing a book?

And then I realized, I was focused too far down the road. Dreaming and trying new things wasn’t about making grandiose changes. It was about choosing one thing I could change. It was choosing one little tweak that would have me putting myself first or showing myself that I mattered.

We are already on a path to become something we already dream about, if God has placed it in your heart, than you are already that person, it is simply a matter of uncovering who that person is and letting go of old thoughts that have held you back. It isn’t about spanning ginormous gaps, it is about making tiny changes that reveal who you have been all along. 

So I ask you, what is one thing you can do today to show yourself that you matter? What is one thing you can do to show yourself a little extra love?

For me, each day I take time out and let Heavenly Father give me a hug. I chose Heavenly Father because I know He loves me unconditionally and He can teach me how much He values me. If Heavenly Father seems a bit out of reach I invite you to think of someone who exudes love for you and take a moment today and imagine them giving you a hug.

Let yourself feel loved. Because we all need love and we all long to be seen and a hug is a powerful way to do both (especially if your spouse isn’t in a place where they can do it right now).

Lots of Love,

Alison

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Alison Fabricius Gardner

Empowering Lower Lights!

Alison

Hi my name is Alison Fabricius Gardner. I met my husband back in 2011 and we have been on quite the exciting adventure together. We have faced ups and downs through multiple depressive episodes, college degrees, and church service.

I am a life long learner and love helping and serving others. My greatest joy comes in sharing knowledge and seeing others have light bulb moments. I love teaching and creating videos for my YouTube channel. My greatest hope is to help others feel that they are heard, known, and that they are not alone.

I have seen darkness, but choose to never live there because I know the power of the light and I want to help you feel that light and hope in your life so that you can re-invest in your marriage and embrace happiness in your life.

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